A few precatory observations on this language of choice: For one thing, it has become so bound up with the fight over reproductive rights in this country that it never really means just “choice” anymore. You can almost hear the silent “unfortunate” that precedes it every time it’s mentioned in political discourse. For another, not all women have all the choices they are alleged to be pondering. Most of us simply don’t have the luxury of a “choice” to stay home, or a choice to work part-time. Most women, like most men, do what they have to do. “Choice” is usually a misnomer, especially during a recession, for women as much as it is for men.
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Posts tagged Sexism
May 25 '12
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a clarification [SIGNAL BOOST]
on my issue with 18-15n-77-30w, cause i see some confusion in the notes original post
my problem is NOT:
my problems ARE:
- that he posts pictures of black women, or that he only posts pictures of black women. i think he does a good job of showing a wide range of african american (mostly cis) women* that aren’t seen in a lot of other tumblrs, including those devoted to black women. i followed him for a long time just for this reason. and he’s a black dude, so i have no beef there.
so for all of these reasons, i think 18-15n-77-30w is a exploitative fuck who only views black women as sexual objects and should thus go eat a bag of flaming severed dicks.
- that he adds his name at the end of everything he reblogs. it’s irritating because it’s unnecessary. when i reblog his posts, my followers can see that i reblogged it from him even if he DOESN’T put his name on it. it feels like he’s branding the photos, or doing something akin to slapping a watermark over every image. now, you could delete his name when you reblog, or go to the original source and reblog from there, both of which i’ve done. but honestly, all that shit is a pain in the ass. and it’s especially annoying b/c he doesn’t have shit to do with anything he posts.
- HE DOESN’T HAVE SHIT TO DO WITH ANYTHING HE POSTS SO HE SHOULD NOT BE PUTTING HIS NAME ON IT. that’s just basic common courtesy and respect for the creators of the work.
- and i would have less of a problem with that if he was only reblogging celebrities and getting their images from google image or something. those ppl have lawyers and shit. but it becomes a problem once he starts reblogging from people’s personal blogs, or the blogs of say, independent artists. at that point your potentially fucking with someone’s money, someone who might not have the means to take back control of their work and image like that. and 18-15n-77-30w is a SUPER popular blog, i’ve seen his name on a non-tumblr list of “tumblrs to follow/black tumblrs to follow” so it’s not like he only has a handful of followers either.
- case in point. i unfollowed him after that. and he never responded to my comments.
- then this morning, i see on my dashboard that he reblogged a picture from me (the OP is also myself, i run that tumblr as well) and added his name. i reblogged it from him and told him to knock it off, or at the least don’t reblog from me. then he reblogs another picture from me, again adding his name. i reblog it from him, tell him to knock it off again. then i sent him that message, only to come back to my dash and find out he’s reblogged another pic. a few minutes later, he answers my message telling me to “fuq off”.
- i find it ironic that a man that has a page dedicated to black women and who claims to respect them will one, remove the captions fromt hese black women’s posts, and two, not actually, you know, LISTEN to a black woman.
- it’s also since come to my attention that he doesn’t give a damn about the possibility of posting pics of underage girls. considering that he often reblogs w/ comments on the women’s bodies and attractiveness (to put it extremely politely) and that many of his followers do the same, it seems like the basic decent thing to do to NOT flirt with distributing child pornography.
- he says on his page that if ppl contact him he will tak the pictures down, but as ALL this shit suggests, he doesn’t do it even when ppl contact him.
*i don’t want to say that he’s never featured a trans woman on his site, because i don’t know for sure, but his shit is undeniably ciscentric regardless.
p.s. in case y’all need it any clearer: yes i’m a black woman. my opinion fucking matters on this shit. get over it.
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May 7 '12
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Did you know you can’t “POP your cherry”? In this video I talk about:
- what the hymen really is
- how this myth is some sexist bullshit
- and how to deal with your hymen the 1st time you have sex
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Informative
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Apr 26 '12
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![liberalsarecool:
Virtually everything we have heard in the week since the War on the War on Women was waged has been another mindnumbing meditation on “women” and “choice.” Whether it’s Ann Romney’s “choice” to stay home and care for her five sons, or working women and their “choice” to be in the workplace, or the “choice” to marry a rich guy, or the choice not to marry at all. Why is it that women are the sum of their “choices” and men get to just live their lives?
A few precatory observations on this language of choice: For one thing, it has become so bound up with the fight over reproductive rights in this country that it never really means just “choice” anymore. You can almost hear the silent “unfortunate” that precedes it every time it’s mentioned in political discourse. For another, not all women have all the choices they are alleged to be pondering. Most of us simply don’t have the luxury of a “choice” to stay home, or a choice to work part-time. Most women, like most men, do what they have to do. “Choice” is usually a misnomer, especially during a recession, for women as much as it is for men.
But talking about women in the language of choice is also a political trap. Because it suggests that while men are free to optimize their lifestyle decisions, women are always forced to “choose.” Men may design their lives. Women’s lives are a sequence of impossible trade-offs, made even more complex when they must mesh with the custom designs of the men with whom they marry and co-parent.
Dahlia Lithwick & Jan Rodak, “The Faux Mommy Wars” [Slate]](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2y09eunHa1qzsnxyo1_500.jpg)
Virtually everything we have heard in the week since the War on the War on Women was waged has been another mindnumbing meditation on “women” and “choice.” Whether it’s Ann Romney’s “choice” to stay home and care for her five sons, or working women and their “choice” to be in the workplace, or the “choice” to marry a rich guy, or the choice not to marry at all. Why is it that women are the sum of their “choices” and men get to just live their lives?
But talking about women in the language of choice is also a political trap. Because it suggests that while men are free to optimize their lifestyle decisions, women are always forced to “choose.” Men may design their lives. Women’s lives are a sequence of impossible trade-offs, made even more complex when they must mesh with the custom designs of the men with whom they marry and co-parent.
Dahlia Lithwick & Jan Rodak, “The Faux Mommy Wars” [Slate]
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Apr 26 '12
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New Version of Violence Against Women Act Shows GOP Only Hates the Most Vulnerable Women
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Apr 25 '12
Apr 23 '12
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What men mean when they talk about their ‘crazy’ ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a women, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than ‘pleasant agreement.’
When men say ‘most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool’ the subtext is not, ‘I love you, be the mother to my children.’ The subtext is ‘do not step out of line, here.’ If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
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Apr 12 '12
